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Year in Chesed—Day 11: What if we cultivated radical availability?

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One thing that happens in a conversation is that we become available to each other. It’s a function of simply talking. But what if our talk was all bound up with the baggage of our intent? We want to be seen as a certain person. Wise. Funny. Clever. So we use pre-fab phrases and clichés and stories heard elsewhere. Nothing wrong with that, but at some point we need to drop the modular phrases and really tell who we are. This is part of being present.

I’m a fan of the writer/theologian/activist/martyr Dietrich Bonhoeffer. His clear writing never fails to pull me in. And I love how he raises my eyes to see what a people could look like who love God together. In Life Together he wrote that brotherhood (or “fellowship” a word desperately in need of rehab) is not some ideal we strive toward or some pot of gold at the end of a rainbow, if only we could get our ducks in a row, shape up, and all that “I’ve got to do better” stuff. Instead brotherhood is a “…reality created by God in Christ in which we may participate.” (Life Together, 30) Bonhoeffer suggested that in this reality, it is not the man or woman “furnished with exceptional powers, experience, and magical, suggestive capacities” (32) who has the ability to bind others to her or himself. Instead, the real power is what God says. The Wikipedia entry on Life Together is thought-provoking:

Bonhoeffer felt strongly that there is an empirical experience that results from meeting with others to become intimate before Christ. He suggests that Christians should confess their sins to one another. He states, “The church community, not some philosophical or theological system of thought, is God’s final revelation of the divine self as Christ existing in community”. In other words, Christians should not wait for a revelation from God before they do something, but because they are continuously and prayerfully considering what is right, it is possible that God has already revealed His will to them and they need to summon up the courage to take the appropriate actions.

Yesterday’s postcard from chesed talked about the ways of the Eternal One with the wicked and the righteous. For the wicked: separation. For the righteous: presence. Except that’s not the image painted on the card. The image had two parts: one was like a desert with scorching winds, smelling of sulfur and raining coals. One part was a face. God’s face.

I cannot claim any righteousness, except in agreement with Bonhoeffer about what the Christ did. I mostly live my life on the other end of the spectrum. And yet the picture of radical availability gives me a bit more courage to hide less and pursue being available.

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Image Credit: Bad Postcards

Written by kirkistan

January 12, 2012 at 8:52 am

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  1. Love this!

    Been thinking about revisiting “Life Together” and this kinda pushes the point to actually do that.

    Thanks for your challenging words.

    How goes the book?

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    Roger Messner

    January 22, 2012 at 10:19 am

    • Thanks for reading. “Life Together” is even more interesting considering Bonhoeffer’s stance on what was happening to the Christianity under Hitler’s rule. Parts of “Life Together” are exhilarating and challenging. Thanks for asking about the Listentalk: it is slow going. I’m revising chapter six now and learning all sorts of stuff as I go. The process is one of revisiting many of the quick statements I made the first time through and adding depth from other sources I’ve been reading or simplifying or sometimes abandoning altogether. My goal is to make it useful to someone, so I’m trying to cut as much BS as possible, though I find my writing is impossibly full of BS.

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      kirkistan

      January 22, 2012 at 4:29 pm


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