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3 Ways to Escape Your Tribe

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I love ya. I gotta go.

You’ve started to entertain the notion that keeping identity with your tribe makes less sense than ever before. And you wonder at your own sanity because the facts before you do not match the story your tribe keeps telling:

  • Maybe your tribe believes one person in your office has nothing good to say, but you think otherwise.
  • Maybe your tribe is willing to look the other way as the elected official—whom the tribe helped elect—continues to lie, goes against the sacred center of your tribe’s beliefs and behaves increasingly erratically.
  • Maybe your tribe shuts down alternate readings of your sacred text because those readings don’t suit the current ideological goals of the people calling the shots.manysigns-2-20170126

For these and any number of other reasons, it may be time to leave your tribe. But how? It’s tricky, because most of your friends and your family friends and friends of your friends are in the tribe. Maybe you spend all your time with these people. Maybe you live with these people. But here are three starting points:

  1. Check in with soul-friends. You know people who are like-minded and are driven less by ideology and more by relationship and caring. Find these folks and build trust with them. Spend time with them and share your concerns. Ask questions together and see if a new story emerges.
  2. Read and talk widely. Get different opinions from diverse people. Look for ways to read books that challenge the orthodoxy. The good news about challenge is that what is true remains while what is false slips away. But reading is best when you share points of interest with others—especially with those soul-friends. Look for opportunities to step outside your tribe: the person at work or in class who is clearly coming from a different perspective. Who knows where friendship and insight might come from? Actively seek others with questions, remember that you are not alone with your questions.
  3. Have Faith and Take Courage. Hold your core your beliefs firmly and ask questions of the periphery. This is the time-honored way of artists, writers, thinkers, activists and leaders. See where the questions lead—this is the way of sanity and art. Turning a blind eye to inconsistencies and discontinuities leads to a very bad place, a place where reality differs from tribal knowledge.

There is a way forward and you will find it.

Good luck and God-speed.


Image: Kirk Livingston

Mark Hartman: When a photographer asks questions

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Photography answers look different than, say, a writer’s answers


I’ve long thought the answers we get depend on the questions we ask. But those answers also depend on the tools we use to unearth the answers. Writing is my primary tool. I reach for a sentence or two as I approach any question. It’s why I’m rarely without a pen/paper/smartphone/computer in any life situation. It’s just how I process life.

Some people carry pen and paper everywhere they go.

Some people carry a Hassleblad camera where ever they go.08152013-500C_C_claret1

Like Mark Hartman who spent a month in an isolated, northern region of Iceland. He wanted to explore “how we as humans occupy, exist and relate to our earth and environments.” He also wondered about the “echoes of human presence [that] linger long after we leave it.”

Mr. Hartman’s answers are bright, clear and full of wonder.

See for yourself.



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Written by kirkistan

August 15, 2013 at 5:00 am

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