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Best Case: Stable Health + Quick Decline + Death

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Reading Atul Gawande’s “Being Mortal”


Another happy illustration from Atul Gawande’s “Being Mortal.”

Mr. Gawande is a surgeon and medical professor and writer for The New Yorker. His recent Being Mortal is a long conversation about how humans face death. Or, more to the point, how medicine and our own optimism interact to keep us from planning for this known, finite end.

This is not something you think about at 18 or 28. But it is a wedge topic that soon starts to butt into life. At some point you notice aging people appearing all around you. And then you do the math and start to think you may be aging as well—though we’re all hard pressed to say where the time has gone. Like a favorite, recently-passed in-law said not so long ago, “In my mind, I’m still 18.” No one agrees to aging and few self-select as “old.”

Still, there is this inevitable endpoint.

Mr. Gawande’s book does the reader a favor by naming the moving parts of this process. That is, the slower and slower moving parts. From the shrinkage of the brain to why it is that older people seem to choke more to the insult of not driving to the big fear of dementia. One of my favorite characters in the book is the groundbreaking geriatric physician/researcher who was active until he, well, became old. And then, in a clear-eyed fashion, detailed his decline, his motivations with caring for his wife of 70 years who became blind then deaf, and then broke her ankles. It’s a happy/sad love story of a couple who were active into their 90s.

VerySad-2-06302015As a believer in the God who resurrects, I do not think of death as final. But as aging continues (which I don’t feel but suppose is acting on me even now), my reading of the gospels and prophets and psalms finds me looking for clues that point beyond what medicine says and beyond what my own senses say. I find a good bit of hope in what I read.

Wendell Berry explored this topic with extraordinary care. His The Memory of Old Jack is a solid antidote to our collective denial.


Image credit: Atul Gawande, Kirk Livingston

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June 30, 2015 at 9:09 am

Counterintuitive: Listening Beats Talking?

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Persuader Vs. The Persuaded


The Russian polymath Mikhail Bakhtin—one of the titanic minds of the twentieth century, though too neglected now—believed that in a dialogue the position of primacy is with the person who listens rather than the one who first speaks. After all, he said, we do not speak unless we anticipate a response; and we shape what we say in light of possible reactions.

–Alan Jacobs, The Pleasures of Reading in an Age of Distraction (NY: Oxford University Press, 2011) 55

Without some listener—you see—there would be no words launched.


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June 8, 2015 at 9:12 am

It’s All Good.

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June 5, 2015 at 9:16 am

Cemetery Graffiti

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That’s just not right.


Or is it?


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May 27, 2015 at 9:08 am

Mommy, why do we electrify grandfather’s sarcophagus?

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Xcel Energy Tips for Dead Wood

Dear WOOD,



You used less than average, but 100% more energy than your efficient neighbors:


Tips for conserving electricity:

  • Turn off lights when you leave the room.
  • Turn off lights IF YOU ARE DEAD.

Please update your mailing address, as invoices mailed  to LAKEWOOD CEMETERY have been returned as undeliverable.

Find more energy-saving tips at Xcel Energy.


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May 26, 2015 at 9:22 am

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